Category: 30 Years of Marriage

Most couples aren’t effective at communication. Jobs, kids, hobbies take time and focus away from each other. Talking and keeping in touch can fall through the cracks.

We saw this happening to us and decided to do something about in 2012. Starting the first of the year we decided to implement something called daily notes. Each weekday morning either of us starts an email with the day’s date and open the communication pipeline.

What do we talk about?

Our plans for the day, how we feel physically, ongoing concerns, news from the day and much more. It’s become second nature, so a weekday without the daily note feels lonely, mindless.

22 years to be exact.

As veterans of a 20 year marriage, we’d never stopped trying to have kids. No protection, no charting ovulation and no worries. Nothing happened and we grew accustomed knowing we’d have a wonderful daughter and that was it for kids. An only child.

Then came the twins.

My sister in law gave birth to adorable, cute twins. My sister and brother in law asked Missy to work as a nanny for the twins and she excitedly took the position. Yes, it only took a few months before we discussed having more children for real.